Who’s with me on this one? Seeded watermelon, the old fashioned kind, you know the ones with the seeds that you could spit across the yard (or at your siblings) just taste better. I’m not sure what it is, but it tastes sweeter, looks better, and it is just more “summer” than the watermelon you get with the tiny little pathetic white things that make what they call “seedless”. Ok, so I am a little biased, but I don’t care much for the “seedless” watermelons. I have been told (remember, I live in the country, and farmers say a lot of things), that the seeded watermelons are sweeter because they have time to get riper, properly, hence the full seeds. The “seedless” get ripe too fast and don’t get as sweet. Maybe that’s true, maybe it’s not, but it makes me think of some stuff that has been on my mind lately.
Have you ever noticed that some folks (maybe it’s you), try and try to make themselves something that God never intended them to be. You have someone who has a bubbly, vivacious personality who somehow believes that they are more “holy” if they are quiet timid creatures. God never created them to be quiet and timid, but they think that’s how they are “supposed” to be.
Or how about the shy kid who sees everyone getting a lot of attention for being “funny’, the life of the party, and clever, so make themselves be more “the life of the party” and end up being miserable.
WHO AM I?
You see, I have learned some things about myself that I kind of wish were different, but they aren’t. This is how God made me. Let me see if I can explain.
Our culture has a lot of emphasis on quick comebacks, retorts, being quick witted, decisive people, etc. Well, that’s not me. I am a slow thinker. Not necessarily slow in the sense of less intelligent, it just takes me a little while to think things through, sometimes hours, sometimes days, and, when the situation is really complicated, sometimes weeks. To be quite honest, I don’t like that about myself, I wish I could come to the right conclusion quickly and decisively, but God didn’t make me that way. I am learning to accept that this is who I am, made with great care by God.
Trying to change me, trying to make me something I am not will make me less effective, and less useful. It can slow down or ruin the process It is like taking a seeded watermelon and making it seedless. The outcome is faster, but much less tasty.
Now, don’t misunderstand, I am working to be more mature, and more conformed to God’s will. God is helping me not use my slowness to be a reason to avoid problems. That’s is a weakness I have. God is working and changing me. That’s good. God is taking me from one place to another, in HIs time and by His will, and I am submitting to it.
But, you see, it is more about letting God change me into what he wants, than me changing myself. So, how does this apply to Christian Home Life?
Well, I am learning that God made my wife how he made her. She is funny, bubbly, energetic, and sometimes loud!! That’s great. I love it. It is kind of funny when we watch sports. I am the one sitting there, and she is the one yelling at the ump. But, that’s ok.
My kids are all different. One is a thinker, one is a feeler, one is a talker and one is an adapter. They all respond differently. My job as a dad and husband is to help them become what God wants them to be, not what I want them to be. My job is to help them use their talents and personalities to glorify God, not become something that is easier for me. I need to help the thinker learn to act when necessary, not because I want them to act, but to help them be what God has them to be. I need to help the feeler learn to think, not because it makes my life easier, but to help them be what God intended. The talker needs to learn to be quiet too and the adapter needs to learn to stand at times. I want to help them grow, but not quell who they are.
One day, by God’s grace, we will all be perfected in the perfect heaven and earth. One day we will all live to God’s glory and one day we will enjoy the sweetness of what God has created. But more importantly, one day we will see the fully developed, perfect picture of what God intended. Someday I will understand why I am slow, and why my talker talks and why my thinker thinks. One day I will be speechless at the perfection of God. Today, however, I will thank God for how he made each of us and enjoy the differences that are there. All to the glory of God.