You know how songs stick with you. I’m not taking about pop songs, or even Praise choruses, I am talking about THOSE songs. Some of you may remember, “Two All Beef Patties…” Now try NOT to finish the song!!! “Brush your breath, brush your breath with….”, and of course, “Everything’s better with a _____ _______ on it.” That’s the songs I am talking about.
Well, there was a song I heard once, and I am pretty sure only once, on an old Sesame Street when I was probably about 5. I still remember it. “That’s about the size, Where you put your eyes, that’s about the size of it.” The song was about perspective. How big something looked depending on where you were standing.
Actually, that’s not bad advice. Think about the last fight you had. Scratch that, think about the first fight you had. Think all the way back to when you were first married, newly married, newly in love and then he/she did that thing that pushed you over the top. I don’t know what it was, but I will bet that, right now, it isn’t a big deal. Right now, you can probably laugh at it. Depending on how long you have been married, that first fight was probably a long time ago. You may have felt devastated, like your world was crashing in, you couldn’t believe you had married “This person”, and they did “that”. There were probably some tears, and some second thoughts, but you made it through, and now, in your perspective, it really wasn’t that big of a deal, was it?
What if we could look at everything with that perspective. What if, when our spouse bugs us, or does something stupid, or irritates us, instead of fussing and fuming, instead of getting irritated or upset, what if we chose a perspective that looked toward the long term. What if we chose a perspective that saw them as God is making them. What if we chose to see them through Christ’s eyes, imperfect, but worth dying for. What if we saw the problem for what it really was, most likely, something insignificant, something, in the long term, that’s probably not even worth mentioning. In fact, if we were to back way up, the problem would seem so tiny it would seem to disappear. “That’s about the size, where you put your eyes, that’s about the size of it!!” Then, if we didn’t fuss and fume about every little problem, when something did come up that needed to be dealt with, we would have it in the right perspective. Don’t misunderstand. There are things in marriage that need to be talked about and dealt with. There are issues that MUST be addressed. But, if we address them with the right perspective, maybe we wouldn’t spend so much time fussing and fuming about all the little stuff.